Recently, Kate Davies reposted a chapter from her last book, Wheesht, entitled Mend. I read the chapter about a year ago and found it quite resonant then. I have been darning my tights for a number of years now, and mending my own clothing, but I had started to darn my kids' and husband's socks by then as well. I've always repaired mine and my kids' clothing (holes in knees, or those
irritating places in tshirts that get little pin holes over time and
wearing, holes in sweaters), but I liked the intentionality of Kate's chapter.
That said, last month,
the kids all needed bigger socks, plus the darned socks were to the
point of more darning than socks, so it was time to replace for all of
them.
I confess I heaved a sigh of relief.
It's one thing to romanticize mending as a slow fashion way to keep your
footprint light on the earth, but it is quite another to keep up with
the darning for six people and everything else that needs doing for four kids, special needs not withstanding. It had got to the point where I had to
spend about a day every week or so doing the darning or else it piled up
beyond doing. This on top of the increased load of cooking and baking,
and everything else that became harder last year with the extended lock
down. It seemed like every laundry cycle added to the never ending
pile of mending.
(I still think it is worth it to mend most things if possible, buy used,
and pass things down within the family, but the cost of this approach
is labor- and time-intensive for me, a cost that I think is largely
ignored in these sorts of conversations).
So with that in mind, remember
the dark blue corduroy skirt I made in the
series two years ago? I wore it twice before realizing the fit was
really off and the fabric and pattern were a poor match, so I dumped the
whole thing in my fabric bin, hoping to salvage the fabric for
something else. Sometime last year, I thought to put ban-roll elastic
into the waist band to see if that fixed the fit. I unpicked all the
darts (all six!) and threaded the elastic and whomp, whomp, whomp.
Still really poor fit. Back into the bin it went.
Fast forward to January and I thought maybe tightening the elastic would help. Lo and behold, that worked! The slightly less structured body of the garment works better with the light weight cord. I won't say it is the most flattering thing I own, and it isn't warm at all, but it is light and comfortable for these days of chilly mornings and pleasant afternoons. I have some dark green baby cord that may become another skirt like this. Just as soon as I can muster some sew-jo, which has been in serious short supply round these parts.

My thoughts are slowly turning to warm weather garments (even as I have three sweaters on needles. Three! I make no apologies...) I have two dress lengths of rayon challis from past birthday presents that have been waiting for the right pattern. I thrifted a maxi dress last fall (that you can just see the top of in the pic above) that I love the fit of, and can replicate by doing a bit of frankenpatterning, so I intend to get to that at some point in the next couple of months.
I love the *idea* of mending socks, but my children wear holes in theirs so quickly I wouldn't have time to do anything other than mending! But mending handmade items definitely honors the hours and effort that went into them. Your "new" blue skirt is very flattering--worth the time it took to rework it.
ReplyDeleteI go back and forth about the socks, because my kids are pretty hard on them, but it also feels wasteful to replace socks every other month x 4 children. But the time spent mending is not nothing either, so I dunno. To everything a season, I suppose.
DeleteI mend but largely only for myself. When I mend my own things (with which I am SO careful), it seems like life-extension, a worthy task to respect worthy garments and the need for balance/continued usage. (And, btw, I've always got stuff in the pile - at least a few hours of work at any given time!) To do it for 6 would be outrageously labour intensive, IMO! I cannot believe you do this. I mean, I get holes in my socks routinely - I'm working on potential solutions but so far, no luck. Sometimes, I just snip the top of the sock off and reknit it on (holes are always in the upper ball of foot). That's a fine hour for my own beloved socks, but I can't imagine doing it for kids, who are so hard on clothing. I'm impressed!
ReplyDeleteWell, I don't *always* do it. My 13 yo blew out the knee of one of his school pants this week, he has sensory issues and patched pants are kind of an issue, and I just couldn't even. So I ordered another pair. Blerg.
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